Do we really need to get married?

Marriage is one of the most important subject in everybody's life. I am writing this post while thinking about the concept of marriage. What this marriage is and how it got started? I will try to present my opinion here about marriage and how it might have started. I do not care here about any historical evidence or a religious scripture to say my points. One cannot prove anything with the help of arguments. We all can try giving arguments to prove something but arguments can be given from the opposite side too. How one can prove that his arguments were stronger than others? The logic that can decide about the stronger or weaker arguments is man made too. So, the arguments will keep shifting their position from weak to strong or from strong to weak according to the different belief systems.




The thing here is what I feel or think about the concept of marriage. According to me, marriage is just a social technique to bind people. According to the process of human evolution, our morality is changing day by day. We were more close to the animals than we are today. In ancient times, the concept of marriage was essential to implement to greater extent because people were not good to each other. Sex was just restricted to physical relation for them. Then, the different intelligent people came up with the concept of marriage and they intentionally linked it with religion. Religion and marriage would have been invented more or less at the same time. It was essential to come up for the religions to create fear in minds of people. Marriage played an important part in religion and the word responsibility was invented with all the ethics included in the religion. It is strange to say that responsibility seems to be an ugly word to me. Can you think why? The word responsibility conveys that we still have unsophisticated society. We need to show people that these are the things you have to do otherwise it would not be good for the society. Everything that comes out of responsibility has burden present in it and whatever is done in love is pure and burden free.

So, the marriage came up with responsibility towards our partner, family or children. That responsibility took the shape of love too for some people which is the main advantage here of marriage. At least people started being lovable and compassionate to bunch of people belonging to their family. It helped the society a lot but we need to go beyond. Today, we are taught that we need to be responsible about the whole society. Do not harm others etc. It is just not about today but it has been taught for centuries and lots of people are responsible towards the society but there is no sign of love and compassion at all. Being responsible is not bad but as I already said it is a sign of weak infrastructure of the society. We always remain biased about our family for the different reasons. The main reason is just the infrastructure of the society. If, we are brought up in such an environment where, we do not know about any small family but about a big global family then the love and compassion will burst out automatically like it is present within families today.

Once Bhagwan Shree Osho Rajneesh said that he wants marriage to disappear from this world completely. I do not completely agree with Bhagwan Shree Osho Rajneesh's statement according to my current understanding. Bhagwan Shree Osho Rajneesh also once said that he does not believe in anything. Now, if I have to relate these two things then I can conclude that Bhagwan Shree Osho Rajneesh meant to be free and unbiased regarding marriage. If, we do so, negligible amount of people will enter in marriage and it can be said as an end of marriage concept.

Our minds have been programmed in such a way that we enter in marriage life automatically. We think that it was our choice to get married or not but it is not so. I think children should not even know what marriage really is. In this way only, we can create an individual that is open to all the choices. If, that person wants to stay with one person then it is perfectly fine but it should be without the feeling of possessiveness. The feeling of possessiveness is one of the most stupid feeling present here in the society. It is strange to say that. How one can possess a life? It is stupid to say that my wife or husband can just make love to me but not to someone else because only I have right on him or her. How you can prove that your love is more authentic and pure than others. Love cannot be bounded at all. If it is bounded then it will just take the shape of pure sex. Have you ever noticed that people go to clubs just for having pure sex? It is not bad either but we have to rise little bit high. Why they cannot love anybody in the clubs? Because their minds think that love means commitment, prison and bondage. That is why they just enter into some pure physical relations. I wish, we could teach people that love is not a bondage.

It is not good to mix up a lots of things in a single post. I will keep writing on the same topic and will be highlighting different factors on the same topic but if I have to summarize this most then I would do it by saying that "Marriage helped this society a lot but it has number of flaws too. We can have more sophisticated civilization. We need to rise this whole society to a different level".